Being all too aware of my singular and linear thinking when it comes to problem solving, I’m constantly in fear of the XY chromosome (e.g. ‘guy gene’). Why? It seems there have been rumors amongst some of the villagers that we guys can be easily distracted. What makes such loose talk frightening to one such as I, is knowing how all someone has to do is show me something shiny and I’ll probably forget what I was doing.

So there it is. Despite all our chest pounding, I suspect we of the XY may in fact, be eminently simple in our constructs. What can I say? And yes, I hear the murmurs of affirmation from the XX readers in the crowd. You already knew this to be true. It just took me and my fraternity brothers a little longer to get off the train at Obvious Station.


But fear not my brothers. Rather than admit our vulnerability to distraction, what do we do? We sagely choose to over-compensate by proclaiming the virtues of being bore-sighted on our objectives; of hunting our prey; of seeing the job through. Anyone who ever played with a G.I. Joe knows distractions like Barbie’s Malibu Beach House must be destroyed at all costs. Our weapons are focus, clarity and discipline. Without these, civilization will crumble and distractions’ chaos would reign supreme.

Besides, how would anyone get any drywall hung?

The same preoccupation with productivity extends into the modern American workplace. With so much of American business management being male, how many of us have overheard an IT person updating members of Management as they walk through mazes of our cubicles: “Yes Sir. As instructed, FreeCell has been eliminated from every lap top and work station in the place”.

Distractions destroyed. Productivity Reigns!

Or does it?

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Despite my best efforts, there are just sometimes I can’t help but want to take a break and do something else for awhile. I like Solitaire. Am I lazy? Maybe I’m not the heat-seeking missile I think I am when it comes to work? What if someone sees me playing? Oh my, this is troubling stuff.

With all that said, you can imagine my chromosomal delight when I read a scholarly flagship blog this week which reported (and I quote):

Research participants were nearly twice as likely to give the correct response to a complex decision-making problem if they were distracted by a simple three-minute number-matching task before being asked for their answers, says a team led by Marlène Abadie of the University of Toulouse in France.

A more-demanding distraction had no such effect: Participants had a 75% chance of giving the right answer after the easy task, but just a 40% chance after a tougher task or if there was no distractor at all. During an easy distraction, the brain seems to unconsciously enhance the memory of a problem’s essence, the researchers say.” (1)

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Seems in yet another display of counter-intuitive thinking, distractions like cross-word puzzles or playing a few minutes of a computer-based card game seem to play a powerful role when it comes to solving the really big and hairy problems we face every day.

Fearing this might be just too good to be true, my X and Y wanted more research. Inquiring genes want to know. Not long after that, my heart skipped a beat when I read about the research Dr. Jonathan Schooler (UC Santa Barbara) is doing. Seems his findings have caused him (another guy) to reconsider the bad reputation of mind wandering:

Dr Jonathan SchoolerAlthough we often complain that the brain is too easy to distract…mind-wandering is an essential mental tool. “Just look at the history of science,” he says, “The big ideas seem to always come when people are sidetracked, when they’re doing something that has nothing to do with their research.”

He cites the example of Henri Poincare, the 19th century mathematician, whose seminal insight into non-Euclidean geometry arrived while he was boarding a bus. “At the moment when I put my foot on the step [of the bus],” Poincare wrote, “the idea came to me, without anything in my former thoughts seeming to have paved the way for it…I did not verify the idea; I should not have had the time, as, upon taking my seat in the omnibus, I went on with the conversation already commenced, but I felt a perfect certainty.” Poincare credited his sudden mathematical insight to “the work of the unconscious,” which continued to mull over the mathematics while he was preoccupied with unrelated activities, like talking to a friend on the bus.

In his 1908 essay “Mathematical Creation,” Poincare insisted that the best way to think about complex problems is to immerse yourself in the problem until you hit an impasse. Then, when it seems that “nothing good has been accomplished,” you should find a way to distract yourself, preferably by going on a “walk or a journey”. [Schooler goes on to reference Dr. Richard Feynman, the Nobel Prize winning physicist, who preferred the relaxed atmosphere of a topless bar, where he would sip 7-Up, “watch the entertainment” and, if inspiration struck, scribble equations on cocktail napkins.]”

While I needed the affirmation from the world of stone cold academia and an odd reference about bar-hopping, I think woman have had this figured out for years. I remember how my cousins and I knew when Grandma had a lot on her mind when she’d say, “I’m going out to weed my tomatoes”. There were never any weeds in her renowned garden, but that wasn’t really the point. Back then, she understood the need to do something mindless for a little bit.

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Smiling at the memory of it, I next stumbled across references to the big brain and larger heart of Maya Angelou. Seems that no less than she keeps her ‘little brain’ busy so she can unlock her ‘big brain’ for important matters by playing (wait for it) Solitaire. Now I’m in hog-heaven! Turns out maybe it isn’t really a guy or a girl thing after all. It’s a human thing. Maybe we guys just needed a little more cover for our pride. Either way, there’s magic in weeding tomatoes.

I’ve had several big decisions hanging over my head this week…decisions that can really impact our quality of Life in the future. I was in the car so I couldn’t hit some tennis balls or weed any tomatoes. But what I could do floored me in its simplicity. As I pulled onto the expressway, I conducted an experiment. I turned off the radio and just drove. I focused on checking my mirrors, minding my speed and using my turn signals. And you know what? By the time I got home, I had a genuinely better sense of just how to approach the puzzles presented me…puzzles I hadn’t been thinking about as I made my way home. Who knew?

We have already established I’m simple so I know this treatise doesn’t solve global warming, but I am suggesting the next time you’ve got a big problem, try it for yourself.

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Do something ‘simple’ that has nothing to do with your dire situation. You may love to paint or play with Matchbox cars as much as I love hitting tennis balls. And while I’d love to pull out of my real-life arena and go play tennis for a few hours, it’s not always practical. I propose you should conduct your own experiment.

Pull up solitaire for a few minutes.

Reach for your crossword or your Sudoku.

Replace the batteries in your little video poker game. Or maybe for you, it’s cleaning a sink or transplanting a geranium. If the order in which your CD’s are stacked offends your OCD, rearrange them in ascending order. Taking the dog out for a walk isn’t bad either. What it is for you is up to you, not me.

All I’m saying is set down your burden every once and awhile and do something that is quick and sort of mindless…something easy for you to activate at a moment’s notice. Point is to just look away for a minute or two. Do that and I suspect you might just see the solution you were searching for has been there all along. How did I know? It was in the cards. Your deal.





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Died in the Line of Duty on Sunday, June 30th, 2013

ANDREW ASHCRAFT (29 Years) An athletic, go-getter. Ashcraft leaves behind a wife, Juliann and four children.

ROBERT CALDWELL (23 Years) The smart one. Caldwell leaves behind his wife and a 5-year old stepson.

TRAVIS CARTER (31 Years) Strong and Humble.

DUSTIN DEFORD (24 Years) Dry Sense of Humor.

CHRIS MACKENZIE (30 Years) Just Like His Dad.

ERIC MARSH (43 Years) Hooked on Firefighting. Marsh leaves behind his wife and son.

GRANT McKEE (21 Years) Loved to Give Things Away.

SEAN MISNER (26 Years) Tremendous Heart and Desire. Misner leaves behind his pregnant wife.

SCOTT NORRIS (28 Years) The ‘Ideal American Gentlemen’.

WADE PARKER (22 Years) Another Second Generation Firefighter.

JOHN PERCIN JR (24 Years) Strong, Brave, Amazing.

ANTHONY ROSE (23 Years) Blossomed as Fireman.

JESSE STEED (36 Years) Great for Morale.

JOE THURSTON (32 Years) Daring and Determined.

TRAVIS TURBYFILL (27 Years) Big, Huge Marine. He left two daughters behind.

BILLY WARNEKE (25 Years) Doing What He Loved. He leaves his expectant wife, Roxanne.

CLAYTON WHITTED (28 Years) He’d ‘Light It Up’.

KEVIN WOYJECK (21 Years) Following In His Fathers Footsteps.

GARRET ZUPPIEGER (27 Years) A Red Beard, and a Sense of Humor.

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The Prescott Granite Mountain Hot Shots (pictured above), is one of the elite Interagency Hotshot Crews (IHC) deployed as needed to major wildland fires throughout the nation.”

The Hotshots crew had deployed Sunday to what was thought to be a manageable lightning-caused forest fire near the small town of Yarnell, about 60 miles from Phoenix. Violent winds fueled the blaze and trapped the highly trained firefighters, most of them in the prime of their lives. The Hotshots deployed their fire shelters, which can briefly protect people from flames, but only the crew’s lookout survived.

It is the nation’s biggest loss of firefighters since 9/11.”

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About dan4kent

Born and raised in the Midwest, Dan lives in the Chicagoland area. With a grown son from a previous marriage, he has since built a committed relationship of 33 years with his partner Rick, the Love of his Life. Having written his whole life, he blogged for years because he has to write…he can’t help it. Know the feeling? There’s ‘good‘ to be found in all of it. “If all I do is leave someone (or something) better than I found them, then I’ve done my part. Thanks for letting me grace your screen, if only for a little while.”
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19 Responses to IN THE CARDS

  1. John says:

    Classic Dan. The world likely won’t see another one. Yet that doesn’t bother me quite as much as the idea that the world (generally speaking) won’t see the present one. At least you’re “out there” (web-speaking). I on the other hand – with selfish admission of boasting – have a direct line, which though all too seldom used, is like 4-wheel drive – when you need it, you sure are glad and feel lucky to have. Our friends, the good ones (also meaning, they are good people) can save us when needed from ourselves and the certain wreckage that follows when we operate independently without a loyal watchman.

    • dan4kent says:

      My dear Friend. You have been weighing on my mind much and ta-da! There you are. I ditto the 4-wheel drive thought ’cause I get to drive the same track. I am a lucky man. Much to catch up on. Will drop you a line via normal (that’s a stretch, ha!) channels. dia, Dan the Lucky.

  2. Dan,
    The, “Oh, look! Shiny!” syndrome truly isn’t limited to the XY. I don’t think I am capable of having a straightforward conversation that doesn’t jump multiple streams. If I was a Ghostbusters, I’d be toast.

    I’m the gal wo discovers 12-15 tabs open on the browser by the end of writing a post and then realizes the iPhone battery draining fast because of all the apps I forgot to close when I was done, because, you know, I never finished using it. Three of the apps likely to be open? Deluxe Solitaire, Candy Crush Saga, and Bones Free (dominoes). Yep, just checked and had 15 apps open. smh.


  3. Julia Kovach says:

    A wonderful idea . . . hmmm . . . let me marinate on that a while! xoJulia

  4. purplemary54 says:

    I, too, suffer from SOS (Shiny Object Syndrome), so I totally get where you’re coming from. As you’ve probably noticed, I get a great deal of my thinking done while I listen to music. Sometimes I play solitaire, too. I also believe in the value of clearing out your head for a few minutes by doing some kind of Zen activity (read: mindless). Computer solitaire came in really handy in college; I’d take breaks when I got stuck writing a paper. I know from personal experience that thinking too hard about something gets you nothing but a headache and heartburn.

  5. wisejourney says:

    Thank you for your lovely words which I shared with my family in the garden last night after the guests had left…a party for my daughter and her fiancée…. A special day was had by all- we sweltered and guests crowded round the box ( tho no longer box shaped:) to watch Murray win.

    Have a fabulous week…. A

  6. Dan! I loved this piece! It’s colloquial and well-researched. And it really made me think about a subject I already hold dear— which is the need for daydreaming (or as you put it— distraction)— in order to problem-solve an idea or to create works of art. A couple of things that might interest you: Firstly, I read this book years ago, but it’s probably the most fascinating study of how a writer’s mind works (including some extremes) that I’ve ever read: “The Midnight Disease: The Drive to Write, Writer’s Block, and the Creative Brain,” by writer Alice Weaver Flaherty.

    And secondly, you might love this great blog called Brain Pickings. This thinker/blogger/scholar posts three amazing and very short pieces on all sorts of subjects every day— including how the mind works. (I looo-oooove Brain Pickings. In fact, I’m pretty sure you’ll geek out over it as much as I do!)

    Okay, I do have one question, though, and it’s a sort of technical question: Do you differentiate between the “guy gene” and just normal amounts of the three forms of testosterone? The main things that testosterone hormones (plural) do (besides the obvious, in both genders) is build muscle mass, facilitate greater concentration, and assist in problem-solving tasks (again, for both genders.) Now, that said, you’ve explained really well here how two out of three of these traits could actually be problematic as well as useful.

    Here’s my reason for this long-winded question: Dan, um, as per your description— I think I’ve got the “guy gene.” Is that bad? 😀

    • dan4kent says:

      Bluebird! Always good to see Ms. Courtenay on my doorstep. Thank you. Coming from you, your comments are music to my ears. I am not familiar with “Midnight Disease…”. I’ll remedy that (and Brain Pickings) shortly. I value your heads-up in my continual quest to feed my geek.
      And no Virginia, having all three genes is a blessing once you get past the worry.
      To me, alloys make metal stronger than it would otherwise be in its’ pure state. Your creative drive is fueled by all of you and you, my blogging Friend, are always ‘all in’. And if some guy in some bar is threatened by that, it speaks to his testo levels, not yours. I think its a good thing that the ‘fairer sex’ makes us sweat. You, your smarts and your artistic compass never fail to light up the place. Rock on sistuh. You be fine. That said, I now return to my very large glass of sweet tea. Stay cool. Dan

  7. wisejourney says:

    Now that the weather is finally fine and I have no tomatoes to weed, I have taken to sitting in the park and watching the world literally pass by or watch others simply sit on the grass and lounge. Perfect mindless ness but I am thinking that mindless ness is pretty close to mindfulness so you are on to something Dan, never fear. Hitting those balls or electronically turning those cards sounds like a pretty great way to pass some time….. between time. Have a great week. Andrea

    • dan4kent says:

      Wisejourney! Great to see your note on my doorstep. I concur. Park watching is an outstanding avenue. Leave it to you to be so ‘in the zone’. So pleased to be on the Planet the same time as you. And Murray just won Wimbledon! Thanks for adding a 2nd dose of brightness to me here in Chicagoland. As ever, Dan

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